Three pieces of advice for the crypto world: cure mental internal friction.

In the market, in the workplace, and in life, many people often experience mental exhaustion. The fundamental reason for mental exhaustion is actually unfulfilled desires, a lack of accurate understanding and clear awareness of the objective world, which leads to unrealistic expectations and an inability to reconcile with reality, as one becomes preoccupied with others or things that do not satisfy their subjective wishes.

For example, you are a retail investor who bought a coin. By the time the bull market arrives and BTC rises to over $100,000, the coin you hold not only hasn’t appreciated but has instead fallen into a loss. You think about cutting your losses; after all, you’ve already held it through a cycle. But you’re afraid that just when you sell, it will take off again, making you want to hit your thighs in frustration. If you don’t sell, you watch as your holding continues to underperform compared to Bitcoin, and the longer this goes on, the more time you feel you’re wasting, with no idea when it will end. Thus, you find yourself trapped in a cycle of anxiety and internal conflict day after day.

For example, you are a small white-collar worker who has been working in a small company for five or six years. The company hasn't made any significant progress. Your position and salary have remained stagnant. In fact, the economic situation has been poor in the last two years, and the company is also downsizing. You worry that one day you might be laid off, or the company might simply go bankrupt. You envy your peers in large companies who receive promotions and salary increases every year, along with generous year-end bonuses and stock rewards, but you realize it is quite difficult for you to transition to a large company. So every day, you go to work like a walking corpse, going through the motions while feeling lost and experiencing internal struggles.

For example, you are a mother who has meticulously arranged everything for your child since he was young, raising him to become a very obedient, non-rebellious, and completely submissive "mama's boy". After your son grows up and gets married, he is also very obedient, compliant, and lacks his own opinions in front of his wife, completely following her every command. You feel disappointed, going from disappointment to frustration, feeling hurt inside but having no way to change the situation, leaving you feeling depressed and internally conflicted.

The three examples above represent three typical symptoms of mental internal friction. To address this issue, the following three remedies can be taken to cure mental internal friction:

Either do it or admit it.

If you can't do it yourself, don't expect things to happen or have results.

Three, do not have double standards in expectations.

Either do it or admit it.

"Acceptance" means to wholeheartedly accept any outcome. "Acceptance" means to willingly do so, without complaints or regrets.

Anything. Once you do it, you must take responsibility. If you can't take responsibility, then don't do it.

When buying a coin, either don’t buy it at all, or if you do, you must accept it whether it goes up or down, whether you gain or lose. Don’t just think about winning; consider the possibility of losing. If you lose, can you accept the loss?

In one matter, either don’t agree to it or agree to it. Regardless of whether it is easy or difficult, whether there is a reward or not, you must not only get the job done but also accept it. This means that even though the hardships involved in getting the job done far exceed what you imagined when you agreed, and you may not receive the expected rewards or even a simple thank you after completing the task, can you do it without any resentment?

In a relationship, one should either not be together or be together, and regardless of the partner's strengths and weaknesses, you should love and get along well with each other for a lifetime, without rejection or regret.

The best time to say "no" is always before you begin. Start with caution.

Once you start, you embark on a path from which you cannot turn back. If you win, be grateful for your luck; if you lose, accept failure. Regardless, the past is the result of the initial choice made and is set in stone; the future has yet to begin, and the key to choice remains in your hands at this moment.

Accepting reality is to reconcile with oneself. It is a deep understanding that the outcome is determined by the initial adventure one undertakes.

If life is a gamble, then you must first learn to accept the outcome.

Being stubborn and unwilling to back down will not make you win.

Wisely refusing to embark on the path to loss before starting will increase your chances of choosing the path to victory.

If you have reached the halfway point, then you must first rationally acknowledge the past, understand the reality, and overcome mental exhaustion in order to better stand in the present and seize the path to the future.

Recognition is not the recognition of resignation, but the recognition of the past, and the recognition of reality.

Adhering to this principle will force us to adopt a "starting with the end in mind" way of thinking in everything. We should be upfront about the potential downsides and not only think of good and beautiful things before starting, but also fully consider whether we can bear the consequences of failure and if we are willing to admit defeat.

Before buying a coin, consider what the maximum loss you can accept is if it declines or even goes to zero. If, after fully assessing your economic situation, the maximum loss you can bear is 100,000 yuan, then no matter how optimistic you are about this coin, you must not invest more than 100,000 yuan in principal.

A friend asks to borrow 100,000 yuan from you. Before agreeing, consider carefully whether you can accept the loss if they don't pay you back. If you can't, then don't lend the money.

Before you give to your family and those you love (such as your partner or children), ask yourself if you can truly not feel resentful or complain that your partner "doesn't understand" or "doesn't give equally," if your giving doesn't yield the results you hope for. Can you refrain from using moral arguments like "the grace of nurturing" to pressure your children? If you can't genuinely give without seeking any return or gratitude, then be cautious about entering into marriage or having children from the very beginning.

Before delegating an important task to someone else, one must first think clearly about whether they can bear the possible consequences if the other party fails to execute it properly. If you cannot recognize or accept the consequences, then you should arrange a contingency plan in advance to ensure thoroughness.

I acted without thinking about the consequences, and after completing it, there were no results or rewards. I couldn't accept it in my heart, and thus fell into endless mental exhaustion.

Second, if you can't do it yourself, don't expect things to happen or have results.

For the past, one must acknowledge that regret and blaming others will only have a counterproductive effect.

For the future, action is required; having high aspirations but low abilities and daydreaming will only lead to disappointment.

To do is to put oneself into practical action. This includes doing things personally as well as leading others, mobilizing and organizing efforts so that everyone can work together to accomplish the task. In either case, it requires personal initiative and the investment of time and effort to complete.

Lying in bed dreaming big dreams, good things won't happen automatically.

For things that you do not know how to accomplish, are unwilling to take action on, or are simply unable to do due to limitations in ability or energy, then at the very least, do not have any unrealistic expectations or illusory hopes about the outcome.

In investment, if you don't have the capital and ability to earn a billion, don't expect to earn a billion. If you don't have the ability to endure hardships outside the market to get cash flow, and if you don't have the endurance to remain unshaken through cycles, then don't expect to rely on hoarding large quantities of coins to get ahead. If you don't have top-tier connections to get quotas, and don't have the ability to secure free chips on platforms, then don't expect to get rich alongside copycat projects. If you lack excellent insider information speed and reflexes, and do not have a massive base of devoted followers, then don't envy KOLs making a fortune from shout-outs for meme coins.

In the workplace, don't just propose ideas, give opinions, or make suggestions. No matter how good your thoughts are or how beautifully you express them, they are merely empty talk. Whether you are a boss or an employee, if you cannot turn your words into action, the ideas you propose will definitely not be realized. Since they won't be realized, the ideas you proposed from the beginning are meaningless. Idle talk without implementation is not work; it's merely performing work.

In life, if there are things you don't want to do or cannot do, don't expect anyone else to be able to do them. For example, if you are very tired after work today and don't want to clean, but you expect your partner to have cleaned the house when they get home, you might find that they also happen to not want to clean. This can lead to conflicts. If you don't want to clean or can't clean, it's best not to expect the house to be cleaned today. Why not let it go? What does it matter if the house isn't cleaned for a day? You can clean when you both feel rested and in a good mood another day!

Some people engage in investment and always complain that the market is too fucked, the sickle is too ruthless, the platform is too black, and KOLs are all deceptive, which makes them not only fail to earn 100 million, but also lose all their principal. In fact, you have no principal, no knowledge, no ability, no investment, let alone speculation, it is best not to expect the shit luck of closing your eyes and getting rich overnight to hit your head.

Some people act like bosses, constantly scolding their employees for being idiots and criticizing them for not making a billion for themselves. In fact, if you yourself can't earn a billion, why do you expect an employee you hired with a monthly salary of 3000 to help you earn it?

Some people couldn't get into Peking University or Tsinghua University themselves, yet they become anxious while tutoring their children, blindly expecting them to excel and get into Peking University or Tsinghua University. Just think about it: if you couldn't even handle the college entrance examination questions yourself, why do you believe that your child, who inherited your genes, must perform well?

Pain and internal strife stem from incorrect expectations of goals.

Life should not be goal-oriented. Otherwise, you will either be anxious or completely lose interest in doing things. This is because the goals are too high, or you cannot see clearly whether there is a possibility of achieving them in the future.

Life should be process-oriented and interest-oriented in order to achieve happiness.

In this regard, modern management theory is quite detrimental. There is an important theory in management called "Management by Objectives" (MBO). Simply put, it uses tools like KPI and OKR to transform the expectations of the boss or upper-level managers into goals for the next level of executors. Then, it promotes the achievement of these goals by combining a reward and punishment incentive system.

If the goal is unattainable, then after hard work you will only taste the pain of failure; if the goal is achievable, then you can accomplish it whether or not you have a goal.

True success is like the number 100...0; hard work only adds zeros at the end, while the ultimate outcome—whether it is a large number or zero—is determined by the initial 1, and that 1 is often not decided by you.

It's just like investing in BTC. All you can do is buy, hold, and wait. As for profits or losses, whether you become rich or go to zero depends on the future price of BTC, and you can hardly influence that at all. You can only accept it, not expect it.

Setting a goal for your investments, just like hoping that BTC will rise to 1 million dollars next year, is a futile hope. If it can reach that point, it will reach it regardless of whether you expect it or not; if it cannot reach it, it will not reach it regardless of whether you expect it or not.

Work hard for the cause, let the fruits follow the fate.

Goals can be actions, such as writing an article every day, or consistently investing in BTC once a week, etc. Goals cannot be results, such as having 1 million followers in 3 years, or earning 100 million in 5 years, etc.

Do not have expectations, do not set goals, just like Satoshi Nakamoto invented BTC without presetting when BTC should reach 100,000 USD, or when it should reach 1,000,000 USD, and so on. What he set for BTC was simply to produce a block approximately every 10 minutes, issuing one BTC, and that’s it. The rest is left to time.

If one has no willingness to do something, or simply cannot achieve it by one's own abilities, yet still expects things to reach the desired outcome, then it is natural to be greatly disappointed and fall into mental exhaustion.

Three, do not have double standard expectations.

Lastly, another type of mental exhaustion is setting double standards for expectations regarding things.

They think the big coins are too expensive, so they buy small-cap air coins, but expect them to rise steadily like the big coins.

Telling my secrets to the gossip-loving best friend in the office, but feeling that the other party will keep my secrets.

I found a caring warm man, but I hope he is warm only to me and cold as ice to others.

All of this essentially anticipates the occurrence of double standards, and it is the good and beautiful side that one hopes to gain. Isn't it just wishful thinking for beauty and only wanting good things?

Any trait of anyone or anything is both an advantage and a disadvantage. Advantages and disadvantages are two sides of the same coin and cannot be separated. If you want to gain his advantages, you must also accept his disadvantages. If you do not want to accept his disadvantages, you will inevitably be unable to enjoy his advantages.

A strict and demanding leader may be one who is good at sharing benefits. A lax and permissive leader may also be one who has little benefit to share.

A diligent and ambitious partner may also be one who is unable to take care of the home. A partner who is obedient and lacks opinions may also be someone who can be easily brainwashed and controlled by others.

A meme coin that has seen consecutive surges, capturing the attention of many and being called out by big names, might also be the one that experiences the most brutal sell-offs. A altcoin project featuring a gathering of major investment institutions and a luxurious lineup from the project party could also be an altcoin project where insiders hold a high degree of control over the chips, facing heavy unlocking and selling pressure.

Only seeing the advantageous or favorable side of things for oneself while ignoring the unfavorable or disliked aspects, and even expecting things or people to only display the advantages of a particular trait without showing the disadvantages of the same trait, often leads to disappointment and resentment towards reality, resulting in prolonged mental exhaustion.

In short, think carefully about the consequences before taking action. Once you do something, don't be attached to the outcome; accept whatever result it brings. Avoid empty talk and focus on practical and effective actions. Don't set unrealistic goals, and don't only consider the good side while ignoring the bad. Be prepared to accept both sides of people and situations. In brief, accept reality, don't complain, dream less, and take concrete actions, which are the best remedies for mental exhaustion.